You don’t care about trans men. You don’t care about me. You don’t care about my safety.

First I would like to make clear that English is not my first language, as well that I’m autistic and I’m writing this in a moment of severe emotional distress. I really wish I had more time to organize my thoughts, to not write impulsively and to be able to explain myself to the best of my abilities, but I don’t. That card has taken a heavy toll on my mental health and even though I might not be able to express my feelings and/or tone as efficiently as I would like to, I can no longer hold back my words.

You might have recently come across a card about G, a card which though including many accusations (some way more severe than others), also contains a lot of misinformation, context lacking “evidence” and straight up lies.And I know I cannot speak for the whole card, so I won’t, but I’m the one person who you have chosen to put on the spotlight therefor I reserve the right to speak up about part of the card that concerns me, the one people have been pointing out to be the most severe, the one containing lies that continue to be spread not only about G but about me.

I will now respond to the accusations while attaching screenshots directly taken from the card in question.

Starting by one of the biggest lies on the card, that I was 17 years old when I met G, I was not, I turned 18 years old on April 9th 2024, and I did not meet G until November of the same year, as to when we “grew closer” I will happily provide a screenshot of the start of our conversation on discord.

December 8th 2024, I was not “freshly turned 18”.

As someone who has experienced online grooming before at a young age not once but several times, and has learned how to detect early signs of this behavior, I would like to say that never once during these past few months of my friendship with G have I ever felt unsafe, or like I owed him anything.He has never make me feel uncomfortable or like I had to do anything for him in exchange for all the gifting and tipping or whatever stuff you all think he’s doing to “take advantage” of me, he never once received nor asked for inappropriate pictures from me.

As to why I feel the need to clarify that I’ve never sent him inappropriate pictures. The morning I woke up to this card being spread, I was made aware of it not once but several times, the whole situation has been extremely stressful for me, having to read lies about myself and someone who I truly care about isn’t exactly a pleasant experience.

As if the lies written on the card weren’t enough, multiple alt accounts of the same people who made the card were quickly spreading false information on the competition chat the card was originally spread in.No, me and G are not dating, and we have never been.

I would like for a moment for you to put yourself in my shoes, I have so much to say, so many feelings to let out, but just for a moment I would like to let the pictures speak for themselves, all of these comments were made on threads discussing about the card, threads I couldn’t take my eyes off from, because the lies hurt but it hurt more not to know what was being said about me.

These are only a few of the comments I had to read, and I’m sure at least one of you will recognize themselves in here.

A recurring theme among the comments was the questioning of my mental maturity. Something that has felt plenty offensive and belittling to me.And this part is mostly aimed at the some of you who believe I have the mind of a child, that I’m not capable of making decisions for myself, that imply not so discreetly that I don’t possess the mental maturity to tell when someone is using me. Now this, is dehumanizing, and it makes me sick to my stomach to even think there’s people out there who believe I would put myself in that position, for what? Gifts? Currency? Attention? For insignificant stuff that could never mean more to me than my self respect.

Now, probably the most “problematic” part of the whole card, the disgusting accusation that G is a “chaser”.The part that is backed up by out of context screenshots and assumptions of the worst.

On the card, this explanation is followed by screenshots of messages by G, which are undoubtedly of sexual nature, but never once were they made towards/about trans individuals.
These screenshots lack context, context which I’ve gotten a hold of. And why? Because when the card first came out, as G’s friend, his best friend, his trans best friend, I too was concerned about these comments, for I then questioned him about it, he provided me with the context for most of the comments made, the full conversation which he also then offered to provide with to anyone who still didn’t believe him after the apologies, all on his blog, but for what I’ve seen nobody seemed to be too interested in that, instead everyone stuck to the initial apology post and continued to call him a transphobe, a chaser, and a groomer in the comments.

G has never once made any transphobic or fetishizing comments in his conversations with me, he never minimized me, he never offended me, yet this card takes the liberty to imply that the sole reason G is my friend is because “he’s a chaser”. Which I find to be rather impossible due to the fact that for a while at the beginning of our friendship G wasn’t even aware of my identity as a trans man.

As for some of my last words I would like to let out some bottled up feelings, I would like to speak directly to the users who participated in the making of the card. Specifically I would like to answer to this little statement you made after attaching various pictures taken from my blog without any type of censor, as well as mentioning my username multiple times.

What I read is plain lies, lies made up to excuse the making of the card, to excuse the inclusion of my name.You do not care about grooming victims, you never cared about trans men or their dignity. I was not contacted by you, I was not asked how I felt about this, my opinion was not consulted, and yet I was made part of your most severe accusations towards G.

And as if that wasn’t enough, you did it a day before my birthday. You did it during a moment in my life where I was already struggling. You did everything you could’ve done to hurt me, when I don’t even know you, when I had nothing against you, if you had asked for my opinion on you a day before this I would’ve simply said I couldn’t care less. And for that I will never forgive you. You never once actually cared about my safety, about the way this would affect me, you didn’t care for “awareness”, all you wanted was something to talk about, something that would hurt G, and in the process, you hurt me more than you could ever imagine, you put me at risk, you made people question my friendship with someone who had done nothing but but there for me no matter what.If I had even suspected that G was disrespecting me or my identity, I would’ve been gone before he could even make an argument for himself. But that’s not the case, it never was.The only person who I’m a victim of is @reiigious#17492528 as well as everyone else involved in the making of the card and their selfishness, selfishness which lead them to spreading a false narrative about my friendship, about my age and about my mental capacity.And I am not calling you out, I’m only returning as much privacy as you gave me when you decided to spread that card. I don’t wish you anything but a self-analysis, because if you think there was nothing wrong when you plastered my name all over compchat without my consent or my permission there’s clearly something wrong with you.I also will not be accepting an apology and any attempt to initiate contact regarding this card or anything else will be considered harassment, I do not wish to be associated with you.Same thing goes for anyone who’s thinking of commenting or discussing about me publicly, I will be taking it as harassment.

Finally I would like to shoutout my inspiration for the making of this card, there was a Reddit thread made about the initial card which had some pretty ignorant comments, comments which made it too much to bear, I couldn’t stay quiet anymore after realizing that most of you don’t actually take time to read, to inform yourselves, some of you just stick to the first information that is given to you, whichever information requires the least effort to acquire, you turn a blind eye and act deaf to apologies and explanations, once you’ve made up your mind anyone is guilty regardless of what they have to say.

And do not take this as me defending G, but defending myself and my own integrity, because regardless of what you believe, of what lies you’ve read and chosen to take as the absolute truth, G did not groom me, G is not a chaser and he’s certainly not transphobic.

If you suspect that someone is being a victim of grooming or think that they might be at risk, please don’t be like the people who made that card, don’t publish accusations while exposing them to the public eye, to the judgement and unwanted attention that comes with it, because it’s not an experience I would wish to anyone.Thank you for reading, and I do mean it when I say, do not attempt to contact me about this with ill intent.